Blogging Etiquette

“So be sure when you step, step with care and great tact. And remember that life’s A Great Balancing Act. And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid, you’ll move mountains.” 
― Dr. Seuss
The world of blogging is a very strange place. It seems awash with a lot of unwritten rules that some new bloggers may be unsure of and established bloggers rarely talk about. Some topics and advice is covered in the weekly #bbloggers chat on Twitter and other things tend to remain unspoken. So, where to begin in the lucrative world? Here’s a few tips on how to be a polite and non annoying blogger but still get your blog noticed.
  • The first tip is just going to be me moaning about my main bug bear, especially on Twitter. So many bloggers do it (particularly new ones desperate for followers) and I’m trying to think of a diplomatic way to put it but I can’t… But basically…. DON’T BEG. I’ve noticed a few bloggers on Twitter are notorious BEGGARS. DO NOT @ other folk BEGGING for them to stop by your blog, BEGGING them to comment, BEGGING them to enter your competition. A lot of the time in general conversation on Twitter the person you are conversing with checks out your account/link anyway so why feel the need to copy and paste the same message to thousands of people? I personally find it very rude. You can’t take the time to small talk but you can take the time to send me a link to something I’m probably not interested in. I don’t want to sound harsh but seriously, just quit it! I understand its frustrating and you’re desperate to get noticed but coming across as DESPERATE (which this tactic always does) just makes me WANT to dislike your blog before I’ve even finished the copy and pasted link to your blog. If you follow people on Twitter and actively engage with people about mutual interests then they’re much more likely to share the interest you are blogging about and be interested in your posts, followers for the sake of followers are pointless you can people who are genuinely interested in what you have to say and are going to interact on your blog, not a load of people clicking on, thinking WTF, then closing the tab.
  • Don’t just blog for free stuff. Yes, blogging has it’s ‘perks’ and you do get approached by people who would like you to try their products, but the ones who send out lists to PR companies of items they want to try gives every one else a bad name. The people who do this are probably going to be selfish individuals anyway and won’t care about this, but PR companies can often see right through it anyway so you’re just showing yourself  up sending begging e-mails out. Freebies don’t just happen, it takes a lot of time to build up a blog which shows your interests and PR companies will generally send products to people who they think fit the brand they’re representing. So less content means less likely you are to receive anything for ‘free’.
  • This point draws back to the aforementioned one and may sound a little contradictory perhaps, but if you are interested in a particular brand don’t be scared to approach a company asking to try something out. Recently I noticed a lot of people blogging about one particular brand after receiving some PR samples, I was genuinely interested in the brand as it had featured on my blog several times before so I thought ‘why not’ e-mail the person in charge of their PR and tell them this! If you notice people blogging after receiving samples then you can assume that the company is ‘blogger friendly’ so don’t be shy. Just explain that you’re a fan, link them to some previous blog posts, show a genuine interest and see what happens. Be polite and honest. Or even if you have tried something and didn’t like it, e-mail a brand telling them you didn’t and ask if they could recommend a product you would like, they may send you a sample of it.
  • This one is more of a personal preference but PLEASE blog about things you DON’T LIKE! I’ve seen a lot of people lately saying that if they receive a product they don’t like they WON’T blog about it…. WHY, WHY, WHY?!?! I WANT to know your opinion, and WHY you didn’t like it so I can come to my own conclusion of whether I would like it or not. The idea of writing about products on your blog is to tell people about your experience with something, good or bad I want to know! And the brand/PR company who has sent it to you wants an honest opinion too! I think the main reason people won’t post negative feedback is because they’re scared of offending the company and never receiving a sample again. Well, that’s just a sucky way to look at it. Just be diplomatic and fair and there’s not going to be an issue.
  • Join the Conversation – On Twitter you can find weekly chats going on surrounding the world of blogs, hashtagging is a genius idea and whoever invented it deserves a big box of donuts. Make sure you stay on top of your field by actively clicking on #bbloggers or #fbloggers (or which ever hashtag applies to you) and converse with others. The power of your social networking skills is going to be your latitude! Discuss discuss discuss!! 
  • Finally, add personality to your blog. From pictures of yourself to blogging about a niche. It frustrates me when I click on a blog and you can’t SEE the person who is blogging. A picture of yourself now and again is a great way to show who YOU are. You don’t have to be dead fit, you just have to be a person. If every blogger was a model then that shit would get boring very quickly. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there.
A few more really simple ways to get noticed
  • Tag brands in tweets when you are sharing your post about one of their products 
  • Link your social networks. When I post on my blog I use Pinterest to pin an image from the post and it links straight back. I do this on Tumblr too, as some people may not have Twitter.
  • Ask for recommendations on social networks for new products. ”anyone know a great foundations for spotty skin #bbloggers” etc etc.
  • ACTUALLY READ other people’s blogs and COMMENT on them. But don’t just put a comment about your give away or something, at least try to make it relevant! Worse example is probably when you give a negative review in a post and someone comments saying ”great product! need to buy it!” go.away.
  • Popular tags on Twitter for beauty and fashion bloggers are; #bbloggers – beauty #fbloggers – fashion #northernbloggersunite – for northern bloggers and lately I’ve seen #lifeblogs becoming more popular. Save them to your search!
I really hopes this helps anyone starting out or anyone who is an annoying beggar to stop it! haha! Not everyone is going to be the most confident writer at first or feel like their pictures are good enough, but blogging does take time and the time you invest in it will pay off in the end. You have to enjoy it though otherwise you’re going to get bored of it. And if you’re bored writing it, then imagine how people are going to feel reading it! Any other tips to add? Post them below!


  1. June 17, 2012 / 1:50 pm

    Agree with everything you said, especially the not posting negative reviews – I want to know about why these things aren't great,as you said!
    PS, FOLLOW MA BLO- oh wait! x

    • June 17, 2012 / 1:55 pm

      Hahahaha. FOLLOW4FOLLOWZ LOLZ.

  2. June 17, 2012 / 1:51 pm

    I find it really hard to take part in #bbloggers cause you've got to scroll through all the begging tweets about giveaways I don't care about, and blogs that are linked to under their bios anyway. I don't think people realise how irritating it is, especially to new bloggers like me who're looking for some pointers. So yeah, PREACH SISTA!

    • June 17, 2012 / 1:57 pm

      Yes! I know what you mean, it can be hard but I generally just find out the topic and post my opinion then wait for people to reply to me haha. Or if I know someone often makes really good points or retweets the better posts I'll just go straight to their profile and have it open on a separate tab.

  3. June 17, 2012 / 1:53 pm

    Love this post doll xx I myself comment on blogs/twitter etc not to get more followers but because I love interacting with others who have a passion for the same things as me esp since I dont have that in person (with my anxiety issues). May seem weird but its the way I feel xx

    • June 17, 2012 / 1:57 pm

      How is that weird?! That's great as long as your engaging and making personal comments!

    • June 17, 2012 / 8:16 pm

      well I only comment on post where I like what they wrote, have the product myself (whether i like it or not) or cant wait to try it. I guess its not weird lol:)

  4. June 17, 2012 / 2:26 pm

    Thank you so much for this post!! I find it so annoying to constantly get the 'Follow me and I'll follow you!' comments – I check out the blogs of any new people who comment on my posts anyway, and I'm not going to follow someone just so that they'll follow me back!! Leaving a link at the bottom of a comment is fine, in fact I like that because I can quickly see their blog, but I will only follow if I like it in the first place!
    Thank you so much for straightening things out for people who do this, I don't even think they realise how frustrating it really is!

  5. June 17, 2012 / 2:34 pm

    love the post and completely agree!Don't understand people who beg for their blog to be looked at, if i want to look at it i will and begging is only going put me off.

    one reason i love blogs is because you get a more personal review of products, magazines hardly tell you a down side to a product and i've discovered so many products i would never know about thanks to beauty blogs.


  6. June 17, 2012 / 2:48 pm

    This was a really interesting and helpful read, thanks! I've only really used twitter to tweet about my posts as I don't know haw to use twitter effectively yet (fairly new user)! so will be taking your advice to join blogger chats etc, thanks again 🙂

  7. June 17, 2012 / 2:52 pm

    This is a great post and full of great advice. I love the pin about Pinterest – I have my Pinterest account and hadn't thought about connecting it to my blog – thank you for sharing! xx

  8. June 17, 2012 / 2:56 pm

    Negative posts are my favorite to write, I love a good moan, haha! Great post and I agree on all counts! x

  9. June 17, 2012 / 2:58 pm

    Thanks for this post. Lots of really useful tips, I've read blogs for a long while & finally decided to take the plunge & write my own! I'm really enjoying it but I do find things can be a bit daunting at times as well.

    I need to get into the pinterest thing as I have an account button clue how it works! x

  10. June 17, 2012 / 3:32 pm

    Great post Terri, I'm actually about to write a similar one based on the points that arose at TOWIB yesterday. I agree with everything you say, except for the thing about not writing negative reviews, I know what you're saying about some bloggers feeling like they can't be honest and be negative, however, I choose not to write negative reviews because I only want to feature brands that I like.

    I can't believe how many people don't use social media for their blog, it's the best way to promote yourself and to meet new people!

    • June 17, 2012 / 3:37 pm

      looking forward to the TOWIB post! I understand what you mean, I guess it depends on the ethos of your blog – depending on if you want it more of a personal style or reviewing to aid others. It's hard to explain what I mean there. But I post to share my experiences good or bad and some may post to share their own loves. I CAN'T SEEM TO PUT INTO WORDS WHAT I MEAN PROPERLY haha.

  11. June 17, 2012 / 3:34 pm

    Sound advice, very helpful. I know I am woefully incompetant when it comes to twitter, I still have trouble 'getting' it but soon I need to bite the bullet and wise up as it seems the way forward. I so agree about bad reviews, if anything, reading a bad review makes me respect a blog more as I then feel its good reviews are honest. xxx

  12. June 17, 2012 / 3:40 pm

    As a relatively new blog I find this post REALLY helpful, I do want my blog to grow, sometimes perhaps I want it to happen too quickly. But i would never bother people about my blog (i hope!) I suppose if it's meant to be it will grow with time 🙂

    Thanks for a great post,


  13. June 17, 2012 / 3:45 pm

    As an avid blog reader I lagree with what you say. Photos and well written blog posts about the pros AND cons of products aswell as hints, tips and photos of them in use are great

  14. June 17, 2012 / 3:49 pm

    This is such a great post and one I have wondered about doing myself before, but not knowing if I was 'allowed' to or if it would be frowned upon! You've hit on some really great points and it was well worth the read 🙂 xo

  15. June 17, 2012 / 3:59 pm

    This post was actually a great example of what you said – I saw you RT someone else about this post, checked it out, and now I want to follow. Hate giveaways etc being rammed down my throat – but that doesn't mean I won't enter giveaways! My other pet hate is people who don't really tweet properly aside from RTing their own praise – it's worth it every now and then for sure [as I said earlier for you!] but I'd like to hear what an individual thinks, not *only* what other people think of them!!! Really great post.

  16. June 17, 2012 / 4:42 pm

    haha such a great post and covered so many great points! I hate it when people just comment asking you to follow them or begging to enter their giveaway, it completely goes against what blogging is about. xx

  17. June 17, 2012 / 5:05 pm

    thank you for this, its a great read 😀 very good points

  18. June 17, 2012 / 6:13 pm

    Ever blogger should read this post.

  19. June 17, 2012 / 6:19 pm

    Such a great post, especially your first point, ahh that annoys me too! When I come across someone new, I do naturally tend to check out their blog or whatever and see if it's something I'm interested in.
    If people want to read your blog, they will, and in the meantime just enjoy writing it for yourself!

  20. June 17, 2012 / 7:04 pm

    Hey it's @staceysmum84 – I know I just tweeted this but I thought I'd share it on your comments as well. I was nodding and smiling all the way through reading this. There are a fair few people on Twitter that seem to beg all the time and it REALLY bugs me. There is just no need!x

  21. June 17, 2012 / 7:44 pm

    A great honest post! Blogging loses it's purpose and turns into nothing but a popularity contest when the follow for follow thing gets involved. It's a lovely feeling when you can have a conversation about something you and others are genuinely interested in, i couldn't think of anything worse than people following my blog for the sake of a follow back. I'd feel bloody worthless hahaha! xo

  22. June 17, 2012 / 8:32 pm

    I agree with everything you've said!

  23. June 17, 2012 / 8:47 pm

    ah I love this, I've only just started blogging & it's purely for me. I'm so confused by comments like 'follow for follow?', why on earth would I want someone to follow me just so they themselves gain a follower. strange! Also I completely agree about not blogging negatively at all, I want to know opinions on products, both good and bad!X

  24. June 17, 2012 / 9:36 pm

    Really enjoyed reading this, I think you got all of your points spot on 🙂 x

  25. June 18, 2012 / 1:16 am

    such a great post. agree with everything. especially the spamming on twitter. it's so counter productive – lola x

  26. June 18, 2012 / 12:38 pm

    It's a shame about begging bloggers – sometimes i'll stumble across a page like that and think well this is nice .. oh they've got a twitter *Follow* and after they've begged enough and clogged up my newsfeed i'll want to unfollow them despite the few cute posts they had on their page!

    Anyway 😀 yes great post – much needed to be said!


  27. June 18, 2012 / 1:28 pm

    I'm pretty brand new at this but I've still somehow managed to attract people who comment on my posts with 'I'm following you, follow back?' I cannot imagine how annoying it must be for people who have hundreds of followers if I get it after just 12!
    Also, thankyou for the part about contacting PR people. I always assumed that PR contacted bloggers and thought that since I'm so new that would take forever to happen but you've inspired me to send some emails to some small jewellery and accessories companies I like to see if they'd be interested in some reviews 🙂 xxx

  28. June 18, 2012 / 2:59 pm

    You offer some great advice, I have to confess I remain in my own bubble when it comes to blogging, I quickly became fed up with some of the "rules" being dictated by the community. The #bblogger chat does get a little dull as the same topics go around from month to month plus it can get a little bitchy. Social networking is great but I stick with Twitter I can't find the time to link up to other sites and monitor them, I have a full time job! I like negative reviews and don't understand why some shy away from them. As for pictures of me, there are personal reasons why I don't put myself online, this goes for my blog as well as social media I use on a personal level.

  29. June 18, 2012 / 3:33 pm

    The whole you must most pictures of yourself on your blog think really annoys me. I've got jobs that prevent me doing this… I like to think it gives me an air of mystery. Perhaps that's wishful thinking but the career has gotta come before a picky of me pouting wearing my fav lipstick! X

    • June 18, 2012 / 6:49 pm

      Hahaa yeah defo see what you mean, if I worked with kids still I would be slightly more apprehensive as to what images of myself I'd post. But you do have pics of yourself on your blog, I think you have a perfect balance for your line of work as you don't give too much away but I've still sneaked a peak at your face at times.

    • June 19, 2012 / 6:24 pm

      Why thank you, im glad I've got a balance. Don't wanna be boring but dont wanna get sacked either!

    • August 21, 2012 / 6:54 pm

      I'm in the same boat a combination of fear of somehow getting to trouble (the makeup police maybe?) and not having built up the confidence in my own blogging ability is putting me off putting a face to my name quite yet. Hopefully I will get there soon though as I find that I find myself feeling most engaged with bloggers that I get to see. Argh issues.

  30. June 18, 2012 / 3:38 pm

    Great post!! I addressed this last Monday on my own blog too!! I think that there are frustrating things for both new and established bloggers! At #bbloggers I now only send my link to people who ask for links. There is nothing wrong with that. I do really hate it when people link me their giveaways. It is so transparent as to what they want when they do that. My giveaways are for genuine followers so I don't want many ransoms entering so I can up the follower count!!
    x x

  31. June 18, 2012 / 4:06 pm

    Great post! I addressed the same thing on my blog last Monday. I think that while there is a need for Blogger Etiquette there is also no right and wrong when it comes to blogging. I think newer and more established blogger both have frustrations when it comes to this kind of thing though.

    I myself just send my link out to people who ask for links at the end of #bbloggers because that’s ok. I know when I ask for links I genuinely want to find new blogs to follow that may interest me. I tweet my link 2 or 3 times a day (mainly when I’ve put out a new post) so that my followers on twitter can see that I’ve posted.

    I really like giveaways but what really gets my back up is when it is very transparent as to why people are doing them (i.e purely for new followers). I hate when people link me to their give away!! Just link me to your blog, if I’m interested I’ll find the giveaway. I have to say I ignore the ones where I just don’t like the blog, it takes it away from a genuine reader. I’m not sure how I feel about this whole ‘RT for extra entries’ either. I don’t understand why you would want somebody who has just stumbled across your giveaway to win over a genuine follower, but that’s just me. I’m not ruling it out, I just haven’t made up my mind yet! X x

  32. June 18, 2012 / 10:07 pm

    Think you are spot on with these hun. Some people are so rude, i've only left a comment with a link once and it was when a post was relevant to one I'd just read.

  33. June 18, 2012 / 10:19 pm

    These are really great tips, so thank you! Sometimes everyone just needs a little reminder about how to behave (although you think that they wouldn't need it, but hey!).

  34. June 18, 2012 / 11:16 pm

    This is a really really helpful post, thank you!
    I'm a fairly new to this blogging business and in all honesty, I'm quite nervous about keeping my personal life private, giving out my address in giveaways and putting up pictures of myself (Oh dear, I sound awfully paranoid!)
    How did you get the balance right between keeping some anonymity but still keeping your blog personal?
    … I hope I make some sense haha!
    Lucy x

    • June 18, 2012 / 11:28 pm

      Just reveal what you feel comfortable with! I found a lot of the blogs I enjoy reading more are ones that show the person as I'm just nosey like that in general! Just my personal opinion some people might enjoy an air of mystery. I never used to put pictures of myself on my blog as I didn't feel comfortable compared to 'bigger bloggers' as I've not got that 'look' but as you write more and receive more feedback your confidence starts to develop more.

  35. June 19, 2012 / 11:56 am

    Great blog post and all very true 😉

  36. June 19, 2012 / 8:06 pm

    I have asked alot of bloggers for advise and not heard anything back. I have been typing #bbloggers to try and join convos but never see my post in the news feed – which now I know is a good thing as im more fashion and lifestyle – beauty maybe homemade masks etc but not concentrating on that yet! Thnk you so much for this read 🙂

  37. June 20, 2012 / 11:18 am

    I love your ballsy attitude and willingness to voice what a lot of people (me included) must be thinking. Also, super happy to see the #lifeblogs tag mentioned in here!

  38. June 21, 2012 / 6:45 am

    I love the social aspect to blogging and try to comment on as many blogs as I can. I love it when you can get a dialogue going – comments like "I love your hair!" or "nice dress!" are so irritating! Have they ignored what we've written and just gone straight to the photos?! I am guilty, however, of not really showing my face on my blog. I am just ridiculously shy and not very self confident in my own appearance when there are so many stunning bloggers out there. It would be nice to make outfit posts more a regular occurance, just need to muster up the confidence! Great post – I love posts like this that incite a discussion x x

  39. June 21, 2012 / 9:27 pm

    Such a great post. I can't agree more with all the comments above! This is really useful for someone like myself who has been blogging for myself for many years but only recently decided to want to connect with other bloggers and readers.
    Thank-you again! Elcie x

  40. July 1, 2012 / 7:58 pm

    I love this! I am new to the world of beauty blogging and was terrified to publish my post on the Caudalie Beauty Elixir
    ir, I seem to be the only person who hasn't said they are in love with it. In a world where it's now common not to post about products you dislike, why shouldn't we warn people if a product is bad or causes skin reactions, etc.

    Great read! Very good advice for a newbie like me! Thank you <3 xXx

  41. August 5, 2012 / 12:23 pm

    Really good post – a lot of valid points 🙂 I get loads of people direct tweet me saying stuff like 'here's my blog, go subscribe!', I'm like, fook off! So rude! My pet peev is also people who follow you just to get a follow back, you just know that the second you follow them, they unfollow you – counter productive! 🙂 anyway, thanks for the post – very valuable stuff in there 🙂


  42. January 21, 2013 / 1:24 pm

    Such a good post!! Found it from the #bbloggers Twitter chat yesterday. I agree with your stance on begging: though I (like most bloggers) do post links to my blog on Twitter when I have a new post or at the end of a blogger chat – social media is important in getting noticed, after all – I'd like to think it's in moderation. I can't stand the whole 'follow for follow' thing for starters. And I've seen certain bloggers literally harrassing PRs on Twitter to send them samples, event invites and products to review, not cool! Always enjoy your posts and tweets, love the honesty policy 😉 xxx

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