Looking 19 When You’re 29

If you didn’t know my age already, then the fact that I’m 29 will probably surprise you. It’s really weird that I’m an age that I can fully remember my parents being. I would of been around 10 years old when my mum was 29! Unlike my parents – who were (and still are) married, had two kids and a house at my age, I’m currently living solo in a flat with my cat. Most of my life has been done a little bit backwards: I didn’t go to uni until I was 21 and am only just on my way to a *proper* career, after changing my mind a million times along the way. I’ve naturally fallen in to digital marketing, social media and SEO though, so it’s been brilliant that a laid back life has worked out pretty well in the end anyway! 
Since turning 29 in November, it seems a lot of people have been focussed on my age. Every time I mess around in my usual manner I’m getting people now telling me that I’m almost 30…. Well, I was almost 30 before November, so go figure. For me, age is definitely just a number on a piece of paper. There’s no immediate rush to ‘sort my life out’ because well, I’d kind of like to have fun first. I’m never going to force the path of my life, and what will be will be. Obviously I have ambitions and priorities, but for now I am content.
Looking so young when you’re actually kind of old has it’s pros and cons.
One of the major things I’ve noticed is when I go for job interviews and people have read my CV then see my face. Every time they will ask my age and despite having no obligation to answer that question, I always do for the sheer ‘shock’ value. On paper I could be in my mid 30’s, in the face I could be as young as 16. This can have it’s benefits, as companies I’ve worked for always want to have a ‘young’ team, but I do feel that at times it can hold me back slightly within roles as looking so young doesn’t echo an authoritative figure. I don’t think it’s a real issue though, just one I’ve created in my own head. Not only does it surprise people job wise, but when being ID-ed in shops and clubs I’ve been met with a similar response. It can be quite frustrating being the oldest one in your friends group, yet being the only one to get ID-ed! Once in a shop the woman on the checkout did exclaim ”If you’re over 18, I’m retiring today!” to which I handed her my ID and wished her a happy retirement.  
Looking young also throws up some odd situations when out with certain friends too. I have quite a wide variety of separate acquaintances of all ages. The main issue with this is when you go out for lunch with your 40+ friends and people mistake them for your mum or dad! Each time this happens though we always play on it and laugh it off. There’s no point being offended by these things – at the end of the day I do look young and I know it. The only time it frustrates me is when I do tell people my age and they’re like ‘I thought you were 21!’ …. OK, thanks, but uhm… How is that constructive to my life?
I do dress slightly different nowadays, in an attempt to look a little more mature. From ditching peter pan collars and pretty doll style dresses, to having a bit of a revamp to non patterned garments and darker colours. Styles change with age naturally, and I must admit that when I wear trainers I do *feel* younger, as well as looking it. I’m not sure how else I can make myself look older, but as long as it doesn’t bother me too much on a daily basis, I guess that’s all that matters. I still have the complexion of a teenager, alongside the wrinkles of a pensioner under my eyes. 
I’m basically like Benjamin Button but a bit hotter.


  1. January 20, 2015 / 4:37 pm

    I have the same worries when I go for job interviews. Every where I've interviewed at has had really small teams of much older people and even though I'm 22 and have quite a bit of experience I feel like a kid in their parents clothes whenever I'm in a formal work situation! I think there's a lot of advantages to looking young though and I agree with you, there's no rush to 'grow up' as long as you're happy! Living alone with a cat sounds pretty good to me to be honest x

  2. January 12, 2015 / 12:36 am

    I'm quite lucky that I look quite a few years younger than I am as it helps with work. When I was younger I always wanted to work in music videos and after a bit of faffing around, now I do. This year I'll be turning 33, which isn't particularly old at all, but for the majority of music videos their cut off age will be 30. As my playing age is 25-30 this means I can still get parts in the 'younger' videos and it means I haven't left it too late to finally do what I've always wanted to. Age is not so much of a problem in TV and films because it all depends on the character you're playing, but I love that I can get younger roles.

    One area where it is a bit of a pain though is my boyfriend is 13 years older than me. Last summer we went into town and he went to buy me an ice cream and the lady in the shop said 'Are you buying an ice cream for your daughter?'!

    Becky @ The Little Blog of Beauty

  3. January 11, 2015 / 9:04 pm

    In October I went to upgrade my phone – the guy logged in to my account to check my details, stared at the screen and then asked "are you really nearly 30?"

    Given that my birthday is in August I did feel like telling him that no I wasn't nearly 30 as I had the best part of a year to go.

    I don't look my age, and I certainly don't act my age. I sometimes feel as though my mindset hasn't changed since I was 18. I'm not so bothered about turning 30 I just don't people to make a fuss about it


  4. January 9, 2015 / 6:56 pm

    Haha I get this! I'm only 22 at the moment, but my hairdresser is about 18 and looks like she's 26. I always go in there and feel like I'm a tiny little baby compared to her. Rubbish!

  5. January 8, 2015 / 9:19 pm

    I totally get what you mean. Someone in the pub said to my mum (when we first moved and I was mooching around looking for a job) "can I ask why your daughter isn't in school?" I left school 5 years ago! I've also had people saying I look about 13 when I'm out walking the dogs without any make up on. I think the best one is when I was out with my parents and we stopped at a pub for a drink. The barman said to my dad "sorry, you need to go sit in the family section as your daughter isn't old enough to sit in the pub section". Turns out I was older than him! That's what I get for forgetting my ID… and ordering a chocolate milkshake hahaha.

    Dannie x

    • January 8, 2015 / 9:31 pm

      Haaha! A few years ago I was refused food at whetherspoons cuz I had no id! But I was about 18. God damn our baby faces.

  6. January 8, 2015 / 3:33 pm

    I'm pretty young looking and at 21 I could pass for 16. It doesn't bother me too much apart from when people demand my ID in a really rude manner, condescending me because they assume I'm a child and failing to apologise when they realise I'm not. I was IDed for some tiny sewing scissors and the woman serving me looked me up and down with a sneer before asking for it – it was so rude an uncalled for!
    Megan x
    London Callings

  7. January 8, 2015 / 11:34 am

    So weird reading your post; I'm 28, I get told I look 19, I work in digital marketing, PR and SEO, didn't go to uni until I was 21 and have had the same experiences at job interviews- have you cloned my bank account too 😉

    I don't mind looking young- I just hope I have the same issue when I'm middle aged! My boyfriend has the same issue too. People think he is 19 and he is 30. We constantly get referred to as 'youths' and last night a man asked me how my boyfriend can afford the insurance on his sports(ish) car because it is expensive for youths!

    Miss Tulip x
    The Thrifty Magpies Nest

    • January 8, 2015 / 11:48 am

      Haha maybe its a generation thing? I sometimes get side glances off people when I get out of my car,like they're thinking my mum and dad bought it for me!

  8. January 7, 2015 / 11:19 pm

    I have this problem at 27. It's so infuriating and it really upsets me when people say how young I look – I don't want to look like a child! And when people say 'but think how young you'll look when you're 50' – great so I have to wait til I'm 50 to see the benefits of this?! x

    • January 8, 2015 / 11:47 am

      We need to develop a way of looking older. there's so many tips to look young but we're completely left out!

  9. January 7, 2015 / 10:15 pm

    I'm constantly told how young I look – I'm still only 20 but being told by everyone that they think I'm 16 is wearing a bit thin. I've noticed people rarely take me seriously until they find out my age, it's frustrating. Oh well, I guess when I'm 50 it'll be a great thing!
    Shannon x

    • January 7, 2015 / 10:23 pm

      I reassure myself by thinking 'well, at least I'm not 19 and look 29' because that would be way worse than the way round we have it!

  10. January 7, 2015 / 8:49 pm

    Out of curiosity why is it you feel you want to look the age that you are? X

    • January 7, 2015 / 9:01 pm

      I don't particularly want to look my age! It's more convenient of I did though and would save a few awkward moments haha.

    • January 7, 2015 / 11:56 pm

      Ah I see. Like when you feel guilty buying alcohol in the supermarket and appear awkward. Or is that just me, despite being way over the legal age lol!?!

    • January 11, 2015 / 9:06 pm

      I feel guilty when buying alcohol too despite being 29 myself. If I'm in the alcohol aisle I feel like people are judging me for just looking at the alcohol because I'm clearly not old enough to be buying it


  11. January 7, 2015 / 8:42 pm

    I looked a lot longer than I was in my 20's. Unfortunately it's catching up with me in my 30's!

    • January 7, 2015 / 9:02 pm

      Haha! My day of aging shall come!

  12. January 7, 2015 / 7:56 pm

    I don't look quite as young as you but I can relate to being ID'd a lot and people thinking I'm considerably younger than I am! It's good that you're quite comfortable with your age, I'm probably the opposite…I'm terrified of turning 30! I guess everyone's living longer these days but I might just pretend I'm a few years younger for a little while. Ahahaha!

    Tara x

    • January 7, 2015 / 9:04 pm

      Yeah I'm gonna start going on buses again to try and get half price kids fairs! Make the most of it!

  13. January 7, 2015 / 7:53 pm

    I'm the same age as you and like you look much younger which does have its good points just think when we're 50 we will still look about 30. I don't mind getting id'd in shops but like you hate it when people feel the need to point it out. I'm also quite short which for some reason a lot people feel the need to tell me – like I don't know.

    • January 7, 2015 / 9:03 pm

      It's ok for a while, but when people say the same thing all the time its just grinding isn't it! I don't mind as long as people dont try and nasty about it because really they're the ones looking stupid when I prove them wrong!